Monday, 13 December 2010

Fears, Beers, and Cheers!

In honour of Tom’s Birthday this week he has suggested the topic of “Growing Older.” This is a really common issue with 20-somethings, as we finally start thinking about how we won’t always be in our 20s...and that REAL adulthood is creeping up on us fast.

You know that scene in the movie The Wedding Crashers? The one where Owen Wilson’s character John is talking to Rachel McAdams’s character Claire...I think they’re on a beach...anyways, and he says something about how he’s still young and he has time, blah, blah, blah, and Claire blasts him with reality and says, “Yeah, but you’re not that young.”

That is my life.

I realize he was probably playing a character in his 30s, approaching his 40s, but I think the sentiment is bang on. You can pretend you’re young all you want, but eventually it’s just going to seem silly.

Tom will be joining me the mid-to-late twenties club. But, as the current elder of this collab blog, I have to say...I’m scared, man. I’m scared of turning 30 in a few years. I’m scared of being alone and poor and unsatisfied with life. I’m scared of being perceived as someone trying too hard to be hip and trendy.

In Ontario, Canada, there are several milestone birthdays:

16 - You can legally learn to drive a car.
18 - You can vote, buy lottery tickets, purchase pornography, and buy cigarettes.
19 - You can legally drink and purchase alcohol, and gamble.
25 - You are officially a Quarter-of-a-Century Old

After this, aside from the big birthdays (30, 40, 50 and so on), ages just become signals - signals that you’re getting older.

Now, I’m not really one to get depressed over age - but I do freak out over society’s expectations of certain ages. By 30 you should have a career and a steady income and a white picket fence. By 40 you should own lake front property and a boat. By 50 you should play a lot of golf and attend many banquets. When you die you should leave a large fortune to your offspring. Ahhh!

Do you blame me for pretending it’s all not happening? Do you blame me for hanging out with people who are younger than me? Do you blame me for not wanting a conventional life? If I avoid the expectations attached to my age people will be shocked and surprised when they find out that I’m 26, going on 27.

So, I raise my virtual glass to you Tom! Welcome to the club! May you drown your fears in beers! Cheers! (I’m a champion of rhyming).

I hope you’re not too drunk to post on Wednesday buddy - this is your week to shine my British friend!

Happy Birthday!

*Picture from my 24th birthday, but let's pretend those are Tom and Lauren's hands, okay?


  1. I don't see you as someone who is trying to be hip and trendy...I see you as someone that IS hip and trendy!

    I'm still only 23 (which feels old to me, btw) but definitely think there's no shame in just living life however you want, regardless of age.

    Of course, this is coming from the girl in the commune who spent the entirety of Friday night/morning dancing with people who ranged in age from 19 to 60...

  2. Thank you for commenting! I feel like people don't like us anymore...are we old news? I don't care, I still love this blog! Even if we just read each others!

    I felt old when I was 23 too - I think it's cause that's the age when you finish school and are sorta in the real world for the first time, and you look back at the kids still in school and feel like they're all just up to no good...them kids! Hooligans I tell ya!

    I love that you have dance parties with people of many ages - just shows that age doesn't matter. Can't wait for your post on Friday.

  3. I don't blame you for hanging around with people younger, or resisting the ruthless onset of age and the expectations that come with it. I'm doing the same. I'm steadfastly refusing to grow up, because I know that as soon as I do life will become so much less exciting.

    I'm sorry it's taken me so long to comment. Bad TASGing from me this month.

  4. Yeah - I don't really intend to do anything the conventional way...EVER!

    Better late than never! It's been a busy month for you!